Starting A Relationship With An Injured Person

Are you attracted to that hurt person who is still heartbroken? There are people who tend to become saviors or healers. They are attracted to those kinds of people who need someone to put them back together. However, they are not aware of the risk they take when entering a relationship with an injured person.

It is about a person who needs to go through a duel and who needs to be alone for some time. Therefore, we invite you to read this article to reflect on this situation.

Starting a relationship with an injured person

Starting a relationship with a person who has been injured from another relationship can have certain consequences for both the injured person and the new partner.

Complex of healers or nurses on duty

Having a complex of healers or nurses on duty makes us be alert to any injured person who may need our care. A person perhaps destroyed by a toxic, violated, damaged, humiliated relationship …

Someone who they did not know how to love as they deserve and that we welcome as if they could not fend for themselves. We lick his wounds, we savor that moment in which we offer him a thousand and one hopes and wait until a small step forward takes place.

You may recognize yourself among people with this profile. If you have a healer complex, perhaps the reasons are listed below:

• Your parents did not know how to cover your basic needs as a child or give you the love and attention you needed. To make up for this, you do with others what you lacked.
• Your partners were all very authoritarian and aggressive, so you look at the most vulnerable and damaged by others as potential perfect partners. You go to the opposite extreme.

• Since your earliest childhood you have lived pleasing others, so you find yourself in your sauce taking care of someone and pleasing them in everything they need.
• Due to the fear of abandonment and rejection, you think that by being complacent and licking wounds they will want to be with you. You consider that your way of acting will make others pay the favor in that way.

As you have seen, the attitude of welcoming a wounded person without giving them time to heal themselves is the result of a difficult experience lived in their own flesh. However, what we do not perceive when starting a relationship with an injured person is that  the ones who will end up hurt will be us.

When the injured person is reborn

We could almost say that it is a constant: That wounded person ends up being reborn and pulling forward thanks to the care of his healer.

However, what happens when it is reborn? What happens is that the injured person takes flight and leaves, leaving the person who took care of their pain alone and abandoned.

This situation leaves the healing person shattered. Not only because he has given everything for someone who was damaged, but because, when that someone leaves, what is left?

Besides having to pick up his broken pieces, he has to pick up his dignity. But above all, face her deepest fears: loneliness, abandonment, the humiliation of not being the chosen one.

The most curious thing is that he will think that this person is ungrateful. However, you will not hesitate to reach out to the next injured person along the way and start a relationship again.

When starting a relationship, each one must save himself

People who are used to being saviors think this is positive. However, they deprive others of the possibility of facing their pain alone.

We cannot save others. That will prevent them from becoming stronger, knowing that they can rebuild themselves and that they do not need anyone to fight their battles for them.

Entering a relationship with an injured person is taking a great risk. The risk that, when it heals, it will leave and leave us. The risk of healing someone who, perhaps, later becomes toxic.

We have to put the brakes on and not get into relationships with damaged people  who feel incomplete. To start a healthy relationship, both people must have solved their problems. If not, the relationship will be doomed and, in the worst case, we will suffer more than we thought.